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Saturday, February 14, 2009

Happy Valentine's Day!


First off, Happy Valentine's Day to everyone!

I had an epiphany the other day that I wanted to share. It has to do with not being too hard on ourselves. If you're like me you may tend to "beat yourself up" when you "mess up." Honestly, we all mess up; we all have beautiful parts of ourselves and dark parts of ourselves. We are Yin and Yang embodied and it's truly amazing!

My epiphany was simply this... “We have the ability to be anything we want to be RIGHT NOW.” As simple as that may sound it's been profound to me, personally. What I mean by that is that we all have baggage and some of us, including myself, tend to judge ourselves based on what we've done in the past, the little insecure voices in our heads that say, "You're not good enough," or, "You are not as beautiful as this person... etc." Whatever it may be for you, if you can turn down the volume on those ugly voices you can begin to hear the underlying CORE voice that says, "This is what I want." At that moment it does not matter what you've believed or have done in the past, you simply act as you wish you could and when you do this, little by little you begin to build yourself into the person you've always dreamed of being. Or, at the very least, into a stronger person. I hope this hits home because it has been tremendous for me. Change literally happens RIGHT NOW.

I've been trying to “get this” for quite a while, however the little glimpse I had the other day was fortified by something Tony Robbins always says, "Change happens in an instant, in a heartbeat." When I put two-and-two together I realized what he meant and, even in this short amount of time, I have been able to really turn down the ugly voices and act on what my true core is.

Life is both awesome and complex. When we act in the moment on what we truly feel instead of being held back by inhibitions, insecurities etc. life is simply amazing. I'm sure many of you do this already, however, this is something I've always struggled with and in this part of my life that I’m calling, "finding my true self" I wanted to share this in case it resonates for anyone else out there.

Have fun, enjoy and don't be too hard on yourself!

14 comments:

  1. Thanks Bobby, it came on a good time!

    Here is something for you:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wDFP_MbvyGc

    This is something I saw just a few moments ago and it hit me really hard...while I watched to this guy playing I started to wander how special we can be and it get me very inspired...so I´m sharing :)

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  2. Thanks Bobby, I really needed that.

    Life is awesome, and I get so bogged down in all the stuff I'm not achieving I forget what I have right now.

    Cheers mate!

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  3. Thank you, Bobby!

    I love reading your introspective posts the most, as I can relate to them far more than you might ever know. I enjoy sharing in your personal honesty with yourself as it keeps me honest with my own self each day.

    As animator and a creative person in general, I absolutely suffer from being far too hard on myself. I've made great strides in coming to terms with that over the past year, but that doesn't mean I don't doubt myself more than I should. There's a fine line between being humble in a healthy way and beating yourself down. A slippery slope that one is, for sure.

    Thank you for the honesty and sincerity in your blog, Bobby! I look forward to your next post :)

    - Rob Somers (AM, Class 3)

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  4. Thanks Bobby, I can dig what your saying. I used to feel those insecure thoughts all the time, then I finally go to therapy and just talked to a therapist for a year or two and I'm pretty much a different person now, much stronger and better than before, but it took a lot of little battles to win.

    Best of luck,
    Phil

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  5. I am reminded of a time when a good friend and I would meet to have coffee once a week in the early morning and although I was usually on time, there were times I would get busy and forget. I would call him and tell him that I am very sorry for being a butt head and dropping the ball. He listened to me apologize and then one time calmly said, "would you forgive me if I had done the same?" I told him that of course I would and he went on to say, "then don't be so hard on yourself, and know that forgiveness starts with yourself."

    To me that was an amazing lesson about forgiveness. Because, even if my friend or anyone for that matter, doesn't forgive me, I have to forgive me.

    I have since had other people apologize to me for things that they did not mean to do and when repeating those word that were spoken to me, the "light bulb" is lit. And if you are like me, there is no end to the amount of joy that comes when you pass wisdom on and a person receives it.

    I believe one of the best ways to grow yourself is to think of how a plant grows. Like the sun, if there is someone above you that you admire and can teach you life giving wisdom. And then if there is someone under you that you can pass this wisdom to,like the soil under a plant,then there is no limits to how high or how strong you can grow. The great thing about this process is, if it is continued beyond yourself then you will one day look around and notice that you are one plant in a huge beautiful garden of many plants.

    (sorry I got a little earthy there at the end :)

    -Will

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  6. I'm glad you enjoy the posts. The introspective stuff is what I'm most about. I love that stuff as it tends to help me embrace life to the fullest. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, your stories and your triumphs. I'm doing a lot of things in my life right now, some of which are BIG experiments in personal development. As time passes I will love to share the ones I feel work best for me as I feel this is really a HUGE learning time in my life and I am doing all that I can to hold on to it and nurture it immensely!

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  7. that's great post Bobby.

    I don't think "you know the power of Now."

    I think "you are the power of Now."

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  9. Thx Bobby!
    I'm right into that right now, like, I'm trying to get this "live right now in the present" to be my everyday life. It's really hard! It's like unlearning what you've learned since you're a child, and do it your own way! I'm working on it, and your post reminded me to do it even more. :)

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  10. Definately, you're on the right path! It so easy to lay blame and I think that's the natural response to anything but sincerely letting go after realizing and accepting the mistakes, is a huge step.
    When I heard the Dalai Lama speak in person in 2007, it was such a cool experience. Leading up to his talk I could hear people behind me mention that he had magical healing powers, etc, etc. These were also some of the first people to leave when the Dalai Lama stepped on stage and said the opposite. He was humble but not self deprecating when he said that he was just an ordinary man with no unique abilities and would like everyone there to think of him as a friend. I thought that this man is so intelligent because a different relationship is formed between close friends than a relationship with a superior. At no time did he sound remorseful of the many sad events that have happened to him or his country, which some consider to be his fault, but hopeful, optimistic and confident that things will work out. The great thing is, just like the monk story you pointed out before, he accepted responsibility for his actions, forgave himself and allowed himself to focus on the present. In animation terms I guess he was focusing on telling the best story possible and accepting that failure is part of process but not getting hung up on those issues when they happen. Cool how all this stuff connects!

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  11. If it helps any, this little AM thing that you've created, has put me back on the path I was meant to be on. So if ever you're feeling blue. or less than your most fantastic self, be secure in the fact that you have made a difference in my life. And I'm sure I'm not the only one. Rock on, Bobby Beck, rock on.

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